Five Statements that Hold People Back from Sucess

Posted by admin on June 2, 2009 under Uncategorized | Be the First to Comment

This really has little to do with Commercial Real Estate – I don’t care, because I like it, and want you all to read it also.

-TD

The five statements that hold people back from success:

“I am doing the best I can”.  This statement does not mean much unless:

1)      You are doing the right thing (that have the biggest return on your time and effort)
2)      You are doing it the right way (there are right ways and wrong ways to get things done)
3)      You are doing it at the right time (timing is everything)

“I have been doing it for over 10 years”. This statement does not mean much unless:

1)      You are learning new and better ways to improve on what you have been doing
2)      You are expanding (whether market share or bottom line profit)
3)      You are building a brand that can eventually be sold for a lot of money (because of name recognition) and/or you are working on building a residual income for the future

“I know this business and it cannot be done that way” This statement does not mean much unless:

1)      You don’t understand that markets evolve and you need to stay up-to-date on better and newer methods, features and benefits that are offered in your industry because your competition maybe more open minded and they can gain an edge over you
2)      You have actually tried that new and improved method and it did not work for you for very specific and unchangeable reason
3)      You know someone who tried the new method and failed and you truly understand why it did not work for them and would not work for you

“I need a lot of money to do that” This statement does not mean much even if you substitute the word “money”, for “credit”, “contacts”, “effort”, “time” etc. unless:

1)      You understand that it is not lack of resources but lack of resourcefulness that makes people fail
2)      You understand that the most powerful resource of all is the strong and meaningful relationships that you establish and nurture with the right people
3)      You stay focused on asking the right questions of yourself to feel more empowered such as: How can I do it creatively? How can I find a way?

“I have never done this before, so I have to learn it first and I am not sure if I want to spend the time, effort and money because I may not succeed” This statement does not mean much unless:

1)      You realize no matter what it is, somebody must have done it in the past and succeeded
2)      Some of these successful people maybe willing and able to share their knowledge, experience and ways to get things done successfully
3)      It may still cost money, time and effort to get them to share, mentor or guide you along the way but your chances of success are higher when you get mentored

Once you realize that the road to success is full of challenges and opportunities you will understand why many people start and very few continue or get to the proverbial finish line.

Success is not about working hard (doing the best you can) or working long (10 years plus) and it is not about doing it only one way (the only way you think it could be done) or about the resources you have (money, time, effort). Success is truly about establishing and nurturing strong relationships over time with the right people, who have succeeded in your field of endeavor, and are willing to share their wisdom and knowledge openly.

It may still cost you lots of money, time and effort to succeed, but having a mentor along the way makes your success trip safer, shorter and a lot more profitable.

Wishing you much success,

Cherif Medawar

Founder, ICRE